BUILDING A CRISIS- FREE FAMILY (3)

It has been so wonderful since we started this teaching on building a crisis-free family. I know that the Lord has really loaded you with a lot of ingredients that will help you build a crisis-free family. By this, every crisis in your home is ending and never to reoccur in Jesus’ most holy name!
Last week, we examined relationship with God as a very vital material for building a crisis-free family. I taught you on how your relationship with God can help you build a crisis-free family. Today, I want to examine how you can develop a family relationship.
Building a crisis-free family means consciously developing a family relationship that is a reflection of God’s original intent for mankind, as revealed in His Word. The picture we see in God’s Word as He instituted marriage, is that of a rewarding, fulfilling, enjoyable and mutually beneficial relationship in which the two parties function in His own counsel. And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an helpmeet for him. And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof. And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed (Gen 2:18 – 25).

In building a crisis-free family, the very first place to begin from is the man and woman as individuals – their personal relationship with God, the author of marriage. The husband and wife must each have a living, personal relationship with God, apart from each other. It is the quality and strength of this relationship that will provide an invaluable resource from which they will draw, in times of temptation and impending crisis.
Without a deep relationship with God, their deepest yearnings will not be met. Why? Because only God is the source of true, lasting contentment, not a spouse! When these deep yearnings go unfulfilled, there is a tendency to misinterpret this and lash out at one’s spouse, thereby setting the stage for imminent crisis.
Also, a strong fervent relationship with God creates the deepest capacity for possible agape love. The Word of God says: And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us (Romans 5: 5).The kind of love that sustains a marriage can only be found in God, Himself and only a close walk with Him can guarantee a flow of the same virtue.
By nature, a man or a woman is a rebel against God. Romans 8:7 makes it clear that the natural man is not and cannot be subject to the will of God. Until one is subject to God via a strong personal relationship with Him, his/her flesh will continually kick against God’s laid down directives in His Word concerning family life and so on. The standards of the Word of God, with respect to marriage and the family, will be practically impossible to attain in the energy of the flesh, apart from the enabling power of God through the Holy Spirit.
Just like building in the natural, in building a crisis-free family, two factors are very crucial:
i. The foundations upon which you build and
ii. The materials with which you build

In Matthew 7, Jesus points out two possible foundations upon which one can build, either upon sand (by refusing to submit oneself to the Word of God) or upon a rock. The only sure foundation upon which to build a crisis-free family is the rock of the Word of God. Anything else apart from the Word is sand, and no successful foundation can be built on sand. There can be no successful family life without strict adherence to the dictates of God’s Word as it relates to marriage and family life. Psalm 11:3 says: If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?
Take whatever God has said as absolute and final. 2 Timothy 3:16 tells us that all scripture is given by the inspiration of God and is profitable! My Father in the Lord Bishop David Oyedepo said, “When you uphold the Word of God in any area of life, you become a star in that area.”
Everything about the Christian family must be built upon the foundation of God’s Word – husband/wife relationship, child training, relationship with in-laws etc. Other foundation can no man lay that that which is laid, which is Jesus Christ (I Corinthians 3: 11).
Just like you cannot build any lasting, crisis-free structure on a weak faulty foundation in the natural, you cannot have a crisis-free family building upon a wrong foundation.
Make the Word of God the final authority in your family and on every issue, and your family shall be crisis-free!
In building a crisis-free family life, you need Jesus Christ, the Builder of all things. If you want to be born again, you can say this prayer of faith and you shall be born again.

“Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today as a sinner. I believe You died for my sins and rose on the third day. Forgive me of my sins. I accept you as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today”. Thank You for saving me. Now I know I am born again!
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus